One of the biggest challenges I see people dealing with when they want to create change is learning to be happy, or at least accept, where they are in life right now. How many times have you thought something like this: When I lose weight, I’ll be happy. When I finally have a relationship, I’ll be happy. When I have more money, I’ll be happy. When I move to a better location, I’ll be happy.
What’s your personal mantra for this? Fill in the blank for yourself: When ___________________, I’ll be happy.
All these conditions to personal happiness become the carrot being dangled out in front of you. You’re taking all your creative energy and sending it out to the future and leaving nothing to create with for the here and now. Your subconscious mind has been programmed on different levels.
Program #1) You can’t be happy right now because you haven’t met that goal.
Program #2) The belief states the goal is unattainable because so far, nothing has happened.
Program #3) There is something wrong with the way your life is today.
The first step to spiritual unfoldment is to learn to accept where you are in the moment. Once you do that the following realization is, you don’t have to stay there! By acknowledging the situations and circumstances that cause you to be unhappy is shining the light on them. Until now, you’ve been shoving them under the carpet, resisting them and wishing they’d just go away, while projecting all your feel good positive energy to some illusive time and place out into the future. This pattern gets exhausting and tends to create disease because you are not at ease in your thinking!
Does this mean you’ll never be able to create those changes? Of course not! But there is some housecleaning to be done! Are you ready? Let’s start some Mary Poppins music “Just A Spoonfull of Sugar” because this CAN be fun!
Grab your paper and pen. You’re going to create categories for the different aspects of your life. Examples:
Physical: Start with your body. Move out to your home. Your neighborhood etc. Write down what it is you don’t like about those things. Start the sentence with “I admit, I have uncomfortable feelings about……” and write them down. For instance: “I admit I have uncomfortable feelings about my weight….” By stating ‘I admit’ is akin to shining the light into a dark corner. You are acknowledging those thoughts and feelings are there. The moment you acknowledge their existence is the moment those conditions and circumstances begin to lose control over you. Take your time with this before moving to the next category.
Emotional: Write down the situations that push those emotional buttons. I admit, I get angry when I’m stuck in traffic, my boss yells at me, I admit I’m unhappy that I don’t have a relationship etc. Get them all out! The people and situations you are not neutral to – write them down!
Mental: What is the negative babble running through your mind? You know what I’m talking about, the negative self-talk that seems to flow so clear and strong. I admit I am tired of thinking I am unworthy. I admit I have negative thoughts about…you’re getting the idea now, aren’t you? That’s right!
Financial: Here’s a fun category! What can we find here? I admit I have fear about my bank account. Debt. Retirement. Write it all down. You want to purge yourself of all the uncomfortable feelings and beliefs that have been your personal roadblock to abundant living.
Spiritual: Are there stuck pictures in your subconscious mind about God and religion from your childhood? Do you believe you are not worthy to have a personal relationship with your Higher Self? Write this all down. Are you pissed at the Universe for the situation you are in today? You got it – write that down too!
Important next step! After you’ve written down what you are unhappy about from each category, go back and write down three to five aspects about those same things you are thankful for: I am grateful that I have a body. I love my eyes. I love the color of my living room walls in my home….see?. This is super important because one, you won’t be leaving yourself in a bummer state of mind after doing the exercise. And two, as you proclaim your thankfulness and gratitude for everything in your life you are actually blessing and energizing your life in the positive. You’ve finally moved onto the acceptance step and have started the process of abundant living! Now you can be at peace because you have allowed yourself to be there while knowing you can and will take the positive steps to create change. In the blog posts to come I’ll be helping you create practical goals to help you create your future how you want it to be!
If you are interested in receiving some personal help, I’m including a link to my Abundant Living Program: http://livingstonbousheyhypnosis.com/Sessions.html
And if anyone truly does want to sing while they do this exercise, I thought a dose of Mary would be fun. Enjoy!
